How to get the things you want

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Updated: May 20, 2020

Learn how to get the things you want by increasing your own value instead of spending money

By things I’m referring to material objects. A car, a boat, clothes, a nice house... These are things that you might want and, if you do, you should have them. If the things you want are relatively expensive, you might think you can’t justify having them or can’t have them at all but this is not necessarily so. The key is to switch from thinking in terms of cost to thinking in terms of value.

Be clear about what you want

The first step, before putting energy into acquiring something, is to be sure about it. Owning a boat, for example, entails a lot of responsibilities and chores - it might only be the experience of being on a boat that provides fulfillment.

Let go of guilt

It’s OK to want things. Things mostly (not always) came into existence in the first place because we had needs & desires for them. Good people have jobs that depend on things being made and sold. This process is mostly (not always) how economies develop.

“mostly (not always)” - some things are bad for you, designed only to take your money and sometimes profits do not trickle down to the workers.

Forget about positive thinking

Give yourself a break. Not doing enough positive thinking won’t stop you. It’s what you actually do that matters.

Don’t go “shopping”

If shopping means simply choosing a thing and paying for it, don’t do that anymore. Instead of spending money, learn how to make informed purchases...


Whether you’re buying a new pair of shoes or a yacht, learn about the thing in as much detail as you can. By studying and learning you’ll be able to truly understand its value. Having it is then much more likely to fulfill your needs and make you happy. Plus, by improving your knowledge, you’ll be increasing your own value. You’ll be able to:

  • Protect yourself from buying the wrong thing 1
  • Get the best deal 2
  • Maybe get a thing that reduces your expenses 2
  • Maybe get a thing that generates income 3
  • Help others with the buying process now that you are an expert 3, 4
  • Gain insight into why others value it and get involved with selling it 3, 4
  1. Avoid wasting money
  2. Save money
  3. Make money
  4. Make yourself more valuable

Example: Ferrari

An acquaintance of mine is obsessed with Ferrari sports cars. He learned everything he could about them and even persuaded his local dealership to let him wash them at weekends just so he could be near them. One day he was asked to cover the sales floor while everyone was out. A customer came in, engaged him in conversation, and was so impressed by his knowledge that he bought a car that day. He got promoted rapidly and now he’s driving the cars of his dreams (it’s a job requirement and he gets his choice of any model on the lot). He’s also getting paid to do it.

This was not a carefully planned approach but you can see that it wasn’t purely good luck either. It was definitely much better for him than doing some unrelated job and hoping to save enough to buy one of those cars.

Most importantly, you can see how the concept of spending a lot of money was turned into a way of making money.

More info

An expanded view, written by Emmet Crozier in 1932 can be found at A Five-Year Plan That Anybody Can Use

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An interesting abstracted view, discussed at, is the case of the virtual economy in the game Warframe - “Warframe is the game where essentially everything we have in the game that’s game effecting, you can earn it.”

7 Ways to Get More of the Things You Want (2016) by Sean Ogle seems to describe a good general approach.

How To Get What You Want in Life (3 Practical Steps) (2020) by Michael Blankenship describes an elegantly simple approach in a good amount detail.

Remember, sometimes acquiring the thing you want is unavoidably the result of a lengthy process. For example (2014), you had to earn the right to buy Ferrari’s most exclusive hypercar, the LaFerrari.

Things take time, so it’s probably a good idea to start now.

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